Happiness on hold

Happiness what is that?
a smile,a feeling,a pet, a welcoming friend...it may be all the above, and then some or maybe a past feeling, a memory a moment in time, that you think of...which ever it maybe, let be your moment your memory, and treasure it, and relive them again, who said, all joy's are once in a  lifetime...try these.


If you haven’t already done so, give yourself time to feel sad. Forcing yourself to feel happy without first validating your feelings of sorrow will lead to greater problems down the road. However, don’t use this as an excuse to get stuck in a rut; feel your sadness, acknowledge it, and use the wisdom you’ve gained from the experience to move on.

Write a list of everything you have. This means not only your stuff (hot running water, a computer, a full refrigerator), but also the things that add value to your life (your friends, your hobbies, your convictions). Call it a "Gratitude List" because it's a list of what you're grateful for.

Follow your bliss. In other words, take notice of what lights you up. Ask that inner child what her favorite foods are and then, within limits, eat them regularly. Note what environments relax you. If bookstores bring those shoulders down a foot, then make regular "play dates" with that inner child to go and soak in the atmosphere. Take a class in something you've always wanted to learn how to do. Take naps when you're tired. Take time out from being in charge, in control or in motion....

Foster optimism. Martin Seligman, Ph.D., best-selling author of the books "Authentic Happiness" and "Learned Optimism," writes that, "Optimistic people tend to interpret their troubles as transient, controllable, and specific to one situation. Pessimistic people, in contrast, believe that their troubles last forever, undermine everything they do, and are uncontrollable." Through extensive research, he was even able to draw correlations between optimism and longevity. Said another way, staying positive may very well prolong our lives. Challenge yourself to catch those negative thoughts early and then gently transform them. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Be gentle with yourself and others while keeping your thoughts positive and hopeful...

Instill laughter into your daily routine. Laughter that is neither cruel nor ridiculing and that acts to access your playful side can be very healing. Dr. Annette Goodheart, a marriage, family and child counselor (and self-appointed laughter guru), goes so far as to tell us that laughing boosts our immune systems. It also increases, she says, both information retention and intellectual prowess. Healthy laughter can connect us, release tension and stress, and even balance out angry feelings. Treat yourself to regular books, movies or people that reliably leave you clutching your sides in laughter....

Get connected. People need to feel that they're not alone in the world. Thrive by finding community connections and spiritually meaningful ties that uplift you. These can be in the form of friendships, communing with nature, volunteering, prayer, or building loving relationships with pets or plants...

Communicate

Talk

Talk

to God. Likely, you will feel much better after you “pour out your heart” to Jehovah God in prayer. (Psalm 62:8) This is not simply a ‘feel-good therapy.’ In prayer, you are appealing to “the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation.”—2 Corinthians 1:3, 4. to close friends. The Bible says that true companions are “born for when there is distress.” (Proverbs 17:17) “The person you least expect may be the one who helps you,” says Alicia. “So don’t be afraid to talk about it.” Admittedly, such conversations might be a bit awkward, as you and your friend struggle to find the right words to say. In the long run, though, it will do you good to talk to others about your grief. David, who was only nine years old when his father suffered a fatal heart attack, recalls: “I kept all my feelings locked up inside me. It would have been healthier for me if I had talked more about it. I could have coped better.”One way that God provides comfort is through his holy spirit. It can infuse you with “power beyond what is normal,” so that you can endure the pain of grief. (2 Corinthians 4:7) God also provides “comfort from the Scriptures.” (Romans 15:4) So ask God for his spirit, and take time to read the encouragement found in his Word, the Bible. (2 Thessalonians 2:16, 17) Why not keep handy a list of scriptures that are particularly comforting to you?

Will

the Pain Ever End?

Grieving is not an overnight process. “It’s not as though you just ‘get over it,’” says Brianne, whose mom died when Brianne was 16. “I have my days when I just cry myself to sleep. Other times, I try to focus, not on my loss, but on the promises Jehovah has in store for me to enjoy with my mom in Paradise.”...

me too. Today marks the day to another month gone, so sad so odd so surreal for you think back was it 4 months ago, and did it really happen or was it all a real bad dream?

Did I really just see my mom get sick, ultimatly died a horrible painful death, in a short time, and buried her at sea... The answer is yes, and we did this, we are in the denial,fase in a way... It is... we are grieving yes, we are living yes, we are functioning, yes, but are we truly living... No,that is why I included the steps of happienss in the above...I plan on trying them myself.

please, take note and read the quoted scriptures so very helpful.

your feelings. Proverbs 12:25 states: “Kind words will cheer you up.” (Today’s English Version) Keeping your feelings bottled up inside may make it difficult for you to deal with your grief. On the other hand, discussing your feelings with someone you trust will open the way for you to receive “kind words” of encouragement when you need them most. Therefore, why not try one or more of the following suggestions?