The Path

The Path, it can be what ever you want it to be....
For me the path is this journey...

It is not a defined start to finish, it is not a few drops in the bucket, it is not a small task at hand to figure through. It is something very personal, that I want to post, and move through with grace.

I'll never get over the death of my mother, I will just get better at dealing without her...

The pain is so unfamiliar, so not ever experience before, the death of a loved one especially a parent, is unique...
One that is not given much ponder upon, so many of those feel for you, at the moment it happenes, but yet so many are at without words of what it does too you...

They no longer think about it, there lives were never not touched, by that loss and or was there lives ever changed;
We go on with life, as usual and it begins to wear on you, the one grieving...
you sit back, and say does anyone see me here?

"Hello, over here I'm sad, i'm alone, i'm confused and abandon...

They don't see you anymore, they can't there mom did'nt die or there just numb to feelings of it.

Each has there own way of dealing with that ....
I get that now, but what about those who choose not to deal with grief, they set themselves up with a loss greater then those grieving now... they grieve, and put up a sheild a emotional block around themselves, over that part of the brain;

the healing can not begin, until you remove the "guard rails" that bind you up inside...The detour you put up will only keep the "feelings" away for so long, and someone or something will go through it, and make you see the road a head...facing what has happened it is a tragedy that road when nothing else will
progress without it first, you will be stranded mentally and physcially and emotionally stalled out...non functioning human being.
 ~fact~

These symptoms are all based on the fact that our body is trying to react and respond to a painful situation. We can do things to try and help our body, but to try to stop the reaction would be like eating a sandwich and telling your stomach not to digest it.

You may associate grief with the death of a loved one, but any loss can cause grief, including the loss of a relationship, your health, your job, or a cherished dream.

After a significant loss, you may experience all kinds of difficult and surprising emotions, such as shock, anger, and guilt. Sometimes it may feel like the sadness will never let up.

While these emotions can feel very painful, accepting them as part of the grieving process and allowing yourself to feel what you feel is necessary for healing.

As you deal with your loss, remember that there is no order or timetable for grief.

Everyone grieves differently, but there are healthy ways to cope and heal from the pain.

This is not a end to the pain in which you feel, it is just a path leading you on a journey it has become a part of you on the road in life....

In addition there are thought pattern disturbances including the inability to concentrate, forgetfullness, inability to manage time and a preoccupation with the loss, some tend not to focus on the loss.