A time to grieve and mourn

Time to grieve and time to mourn is a persective view of the jounrney at  hand and the way I see it is not the way everyone will see it.
Grief can be relieved by way of mourning... by;Jounaling,talking it out or a creative
out-let like painting,or sculpting... 

Mourning is a natural healing process at mental, emotional and spiritual level that eventually helps up in returning to normal balance and functioning, and frees up energy to form new bonds from broken bonds and allows us losers to regain lifes balance, energy, and purpose in your life.

Mourning heals the pain and emptiness of any loss over the period of time. All adults and kids must mourn at various losses as they age and change.

 Even though the loss occurred may be similar to that of others, still every loss is unique.

 Grief reactions may be felt in response to physical losses like death or in response to social losses like divorce or loss of a job. 

Actually, we must mourn like innocent children, at the endings of all those things to whom we were attached throughout our lives...

Grief may be experienced as a mental, physical, social, or emotional reaction. Mental reactions can include resentment, guilt, nervousness, depression, and desolation.

Physical reactions can include sleeping disorders, eating disorders or discomforts like headaches, tics, muscle spasms or stomachaches along with many other ailment symptoms or ill-health conditions.
 Many of the bodily ailments and discomforts are promoted or caused by psychological repression and related thoughts.
Social reactions can include excessive concern or worries of others in the family, seeing family or friends or returning to work.  either physically, emotionally, and spiritually...


Unfortunately in our society, we associate crying with weakness or childishness and resist crying in public- especially males. However crying is a natural bodily balancing response that purges stress-producing chemicals, like urinating or vomiting. Withholding permission to cry and express related emotions and thoughts blocks grief, and causes physiological stress, which may culminate in numerous symptoms or ill-health conditions.

 People while grieving often feel extremely exhausted because the process of grieving usually requires physical and emotional energy. The grief we are feeling is not necessarily for the person who died, but also for the unfulfilled wishes and plans for the relationship with that person. Death often reminds people of past losses...




Some common symptoms of Blocked Grieving: 
Seeming "forever" sad, quietness, or depressed, or often feeling numb or "nothing" in general, or about a loss (broken bond). Mind remains full of thoughts about death, like death is temporary, not final or death is final and terrifying, it cannot be changed; Dead person can come back to life....

The Dead our conscience of nothing at all the bible tell's.

Ecc 9:5  For the living are conscious that they will die; but as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all, neither do they anymore have wages, because the remembrance of them has been forgotten.
 Curious about death; May have exaggerated fears about particular place, vehicle or workplace, may feel abandoned, Heightened emotions, guilt, anger, shame; Increased anxiety over own death; mood swings; Fear of rejection; not wanting to be different from peers.


This good grieving process includes a gradual shift from mental chaos to realistic, consistent clarity on that mishap like reviewing the losses, reasons of that mishap, whom to blame or held responsible and gravity of that losses in distracting the life. Over the period of time, our psyche can gently and patiently help us to find out our own answers to these questions....


As said above, there are various ways of expressing negative emotions like jealousy, anger, envy, greed, sloth, shame, guilt etc....
Even the pleasant things in excess like over-enthusiasm, passions, elations or even certain forms of love, can also generate negative emotions.

Despite being of no use to us, negative emotions are tremendously powerful...
 They can debilitate our lives extremely quick. A life-long friendship may come to an end with few words; suspicion or doubting the moral character of partner may lead to divorce or make disastrous choices, because we are out to prove something.

1. The shortest way to the “other side” of grief is, “through”. A person who tries to suppress their sadness about a loss will eventually have to deal with the anger, sadness and unfairness of the loss. The more unresolved and suppressed grief, the more a person’s life will be emotionally restricted and their grief will come out in “unconscious” ways at those around them. It is important to honor and acknowledge grief and loss and the accompanying feelings, so these feelings are not slipping out at unwanted times at other people or being turned inward and causing physical illness.

1. Grief has five stages. Denial (“it can’t really be happening.”) Bargaining (“If only I had…” “If only he/she had…”) Anger (At the one lost, at caregivers of the one lost, at oneself, etc.) Sadness (depression, tears, discouragement, feelings of unfairness, etc.) and Resolution (Finally understanding the loss was not about you and that you will survive and possibly help other people out of that loss).
2. Create an outward expression of what you are feeling inside. This is also called “ritual”. When we ritualize a significant emotional event it helps our mind find resolution. Writing a poem, taking flowers, creating a memorial or something in honor of the person or your time together can help in emotional healing.
3. Write. Journaling and putting your thoughts and feelings on paper are very useful in going through the grieving process. Part of this is a way to acknowledge your feelings and thoughts, but also it helps process emotions in a different way in the brain by putting words to them.
4. Spend time with long-term friends and caring relatives. Having some continuity in life is important. Being able to relive memories, reconnect with the past and have a sense that you are not all alone is important.
5. Do new things. Learn a new skill or take up a new hobby. Find out about talent you never knew you had. Meet new people. Join a grief support group or a new class. Add new dimensions into your life.
6. Reconnect with your spiritual side. Whatever you do to remember that you are not alone and the world is not random are good things to participate in. Reading inspirational materials, listening to CDs or tapes of inspirational speakers. Attending church, temple, 12-step meetings, and support groups, being in nature, or any place where you feel connected to a “bigger picture”.

           They certainly can not hurt you if you try some of them....
Ecc 3;2-8

 a time for birth and a time to die; a time to plant and a time to uproot what was planted; 3 a time to kill and a time to heal; a time to break down and a time to build; 4 a time to weep and a time to laugh; a time to wail and a time to skip about; 5 a time to throw stones away and a time to bring stones together; a time to embrace and a time to keep away from embracing; 6 a time to seek and a time to give up as lost; a time to keep and a time to throw away; 7 a time to rip apart and a time to sew together; a time to keep quiet and a time to speak; 8 a time to love and a time to hate; a time for war and a time for peace.

Everyone reacts to grief differently. An introvert personality may be reticent or withdrawn or one individual will be open and talkative. Some of us adjust well to very severe losses, while others recover poorly from far less trauma. It is our natural instinctive tendency to return to balance, so as to return to our natural state of health.